r5a - Saying you speak for yourself is meaningless. You have to actually speak for yourself. It’s kind of like “You’re stupid, but I mean that in a good way.” The small print doesn’t erase the large. “Come and see me.” is speaking for yourself. “Come and see my sifu.” no matter the framing, is speaking for your sifu. That’s an important point that can cause real problems if you don’t come to understand it (luckily, we live in a time and place that minimizes the problems, in the old days, things could become downright disasterous).
Most of us are at the bottom of the mountain. That’s the point. Hyperbole (which is all this boils down to) is meaningless given that frame of reference. Self serving hyperbole (which is also all this boils down to) is even more meaningless. If you were a 30 year vet under Tsui Sheung-Ting, it would mean more.
I didn’t miss the point on your challenge. What you wrote was not for you but for those reading it. What you intend doesn’t matter in that sense, only what you communicate, including to those who may be predisposed to “misunderstand” you (see that other infamous “encounter” at a seminar in the 80s). It’s what others read (into) this that’s important. Martial etiquette evolved, in part, as a formalization of communication to prevent problems or misunderstandings leading to very bad results. This was/is especially true for well meaning students whose good intentions could lead to anything but. Again, we live in a time and place where its not as big a concern, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t. To many people (some just not nice people, but those are part of your audience), what you wrote could be considered insulting, provocative, and an invitation to confrontation.
On Emin Boztepe, are you speaking from deep, personal, first-hand experience or stories you’ve been told from others? I’ve never met the man and only seen small clips of him on video, and would never presume to speak so authoritatively on him. I’ve exchanged emails, however, with a student of his who seems quite knowledgeable (in physical sciences as well as WCK) and while a little different than what I do, he can explain what and why he does what he does, which is rare enough that it deserves respect (think about that a while - can you really explain beyond “sifu said” why you move the way you move, align the way you align, engage the way you engage…)
On ego, I was just pointing out a possible common miss-use of the term.
And again, “I would never do that for someone else” is a dollar short and a day late. You did, regardless of intentions. You put your sifu at risk. If it wasn’t your intent, you should have chosen your words much much much more carefully.
As to “the best I can find”, that’s a wild goose chase. I practice what my time allows that can improve me in substantial ways and holds up to fairly rigorous checking and testing. My teacher can explain what he does, how he does it, and why and when he does it, which is what I need, and he’s a true gentleman, which is what I respect. What if I met better and s/he was half a world away? What if I met better and s/he was a complete @$$hole. What if I met better but somehow I couldn’t achieve as good results? What if I met someone who was better at (a) but worse at (b)?
And again, I had the good fortune to meet and touch hands with Ken Chung. So do I still need to come see your sifu?
You don’t come off as rough, and I don’t mean to lecture. I do take this type of stuff fairly seriously, however, as I’ve seen some bad consquences at times. If you really think what you write doesn’t affect your sifu, your sigung, your family, you really need to rethink it.
Confidence is good and important, but in martial arts we temper it with humility. Yin and Yang are two extremes, and WCK, I’m told, favors the center.
And hey, if you really are doing “the best”, keep it to yourself or someone might come learn it who ends up mugging you ![]()
RR