Scared away…
When I was 14 (in the Philippines), I started training in Shorin Ryu Shorinkan Okinawan Karate Do. There was no A/C, and you guys can imagine the heat and humidity 11 mos. out of the year. It was very hard training and many people left just because of the kihon (basics) and conditioning. A lot of them wound up joining other classes on and off-base where things were a lot “nicer”. Kumite (sparring) culled the herd even more. TKD, Goju Ryu, and other styles that practiced at our school eventually averaged about 20 people per class. We never had more than 6-8.
I tried to get an acquaintance to join the class after he saw us training one day, and he seemed very enthusiastic about his intro to karate. My sensei often tested the mental and physical mettle of the new students by making them do some light sparring with the senior mudansha (non-Black Belt students) and himself. He decided that since I knew this cat that I should spar with him. He had only been in the class for about a month, but already his basics were getting tighter. My sensei reassured the new guy that I would take it easy on him, and looked at me sternly to get his point across.
We squared off and I told the guy that I would just dodge, parry and touch him. He came at me like a screaming banshee! I stepped to the side and let a controlled mawashi geri (roudhouse) touch his ribs. His momentum must have added extra force to the blow, 'cause he doubled over. I rushed over to him to see if he was alright, and he slapped my hand away. I was like “sorry bruh”, and he jumped up and got into his fighting stance. My sensei chastised him for lacking control and told him that you have to evaluate your opponent before throwing yourself into the fray. He looked at me and said “Softly, now”!
“Hajime!” (begin). The dude came running at me hands a-whirling like Shaq, no form, no control. I blocked and touched him with a controlled backfist to the side of the head. At this he threw down his gloves, cursed me for being an A-Hole, and stormed out of the dojo. He never returned. My sensei explained that the kid was not mentally equipped to be a karateka. He went on to say that he should have picked this up. I found out later that this guy, who was from a rival breakdancing crew, was realy there to rough my brother and me up. Weird. He told me at school that karate hurt too much, and he wasn’t into unnecessary pain. I explained that I hit him as soft as possible and that it was his furious charges that really hurt him. He dismissed me and told me to get away from him. That seems to happen to me a lot.
Anyway, with practice of the basics (for 3 months, minimum), kata/forms training, and other traditional and modern training devices, control and fighting knowledge is achieved. Peoples preconceived notions about what is fighting and what is not will often be totally altered. Most folks just don’t get into any real physical confrontations in their life, and if and when they do they often rely on aggression, athleticism, luck or all 3. Without proper training a novice can hurt themselves and others. For MMA or combat sports that’s cool, their aim is to brutalize the body and brain. In MAs the aim is multifaceted, with fighting being a byproduct of your training. Does that make sense?
After that incident my sensei would make sure he played “catch me if you can” with the new students, until he felt their physical and mental training was at the appropriate level to engage in free-fighting. So sparring straight off isn’t necessarily a good thing. In fact sparring gives many martial artists a false sense of real world confidence. It does teach ma-ai/ma or fighting distance, and footwork, but it doesn’t necessarily teach one how to preserve his life. Most people will never have to fight or use what they know in the real world, so sparring is more of a fun time, where with sweat, techs can be polished at pseudo-fighting speed. This is all just my honest opinion, and others will disagree. Cool. Whateva’! I’m giving you my take on the free-sparring controversy, that’s it.