I was reading the epoc time.
There was an article reporting that Chan dating is popular nowadays.
So you just look at each other or sense each other across the table. there are no words or conversation.
If you like each other without words, you then move on to movie or concert.
Again, there are no word exchanges. You may sense each other if you like or do not like the movie or concert.
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that is interesting.
that is stupid…we aren’t animals… we dont sense potentially ideal mates. we communicate. we hafta express our ideas and feelings to the outside world to interact with it.
anyhow sensing things only somewhat works with people your already familiar with…like knowing when your wife is ****ed and you should probably go out to the pub for a few hours.
i figure you’d hafta be the buddha himself for that to even come close to havin any benefits…
At least 75% of all communication is non-verbal. That being “said” you really can’t tell anything about a person by looking at them expect their outward appearance. “She has nice cleveage, pretty eyes, full lips. Yep, I’d do her.” That’s a good message to send.:rolleyes:
I Zen f***pretty much every chick I see.
Not talking is a really bad idea. In fact, just regular dating is a really bad idea.
There’s too much chance for deception. You don’t know the person. You don’t know if they lie, if they’re a stalker, if they have STDs, if they plan on using you for money, if they’re already going out with somebody else, etc. etc.
You probably shouldn’t go out with somebody you already don’t know pretty well.
ya, you should just get a job selling on ebay, get your gorceries delivered and never leave your house too.
you lost me with the name of this and the whole thing in general but
That is very interesting though. There are so many times where you really don’t want to talk, but with how much I ramble on, it would be hard to stick by it all the time, but neat little plan. Doubt the ladies would like it though.
How did you know? 
No, seriously, after decades of dating and marriage, the fact is that you won’t know somebody very well at first, and they will hide things from you, and they will deceive you.
If you don’t mind that, catching diseases in this day and age of STDs, the financial burden of deceitful relationships and spouses, etc., then nothing’s stopping you from doing that.
It’s your choice, I guess. 
why even bother? Fair, balance and unafraid?
the article was arguing that we are living in a era of overflow of info input.
internet, cell phone, cable, satellite TV 24/7 etc
therefore some quiet time with the opposite sex may not be a bad idea.
Ironically, this is still better then arranged marriage of the old China.
Everything is said by both parents and the match.
Some indirect info about future spouse.
You sneak preview the girl in the back yard.
The first time you see the girl is at the wedding nite unveiling the head curtain.
There are also some drawn pictures or actual photoes.
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Perhaps I’m a bit biassed
Between my main profession as a language teacher and my sideline work as a writer I am perhaps just slightly biassed but I find language to be an essential part of communication.
Is body language important? Yes.
Can one do away with linguistic communication in some form and still have meaningful communication? Not in my opinion.
I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m all for lying quietly in bed, looking into the eyes of somebody I love dearly. I just don’t think that the time for silence is when you first meet.
Then again I also have a bit of a knee jerk reaction to doubt the epoch times. If they were to publish an exposee that the sky was blue I’d probably go to the nearest window to check. And then reply with: “no, it’s grey”.
It’s not a bad idea. Turn off the cell-phone and have a nice dinner that focuses on conversation or take a walk in the park etc. When I go home, the cell-phone is turned off. I don’t have a T.V. in the bedroom either as that place is for rest and, um, quality time with my wife; not for watching South Park.
ha…you’re still a newlywed dude…give it a few years and you’ll be laying awake watching re-runs of bay watch while she snores.
MK has eye-raped the correct.
then what are we?
vegetables?
minerals?
running out of choices…
we dont sense potentially ideal mates. we communicate.
that’s a nice idea…
too bad its not true
at any rate, vocalizations are an integral part of many species of animals’ mating ritual. doesn’t make us special.
I would say that the actual communication of ideas is pretty much out of the loop in the human mating ritual.
that being said, there is just no way in h3ll this zen dating thing will ever catch on.
ever.
Maybe, but I’ll do it downstairs on the couch. I think that you will keep that fire around longer if there are fewer distractions in the bedroom.
How about nude zen dating?
Oso, don’t be dissing Baywatch. Pamela Anderson made me turn vegetarian.
Pamela Anderson has got to be the grossest example of a woman anywhere.
Sorry, fake blonde hair and fake tits…just don’t get it. And, she’s really kinda ugly in the face.
JP, you’re right of course. And, apparently, you are getting the fire on pretty good…congratulations.
Yeah… It would be nearly impossible for my girlfriend to look LESS like Pamela Anderson. And I couldn’t be happier. 
i think your looking at this a lil too simplistically… 
i dont know… some people have a problem accepting this but though we have a hell of a lot in common with animals on the basic level i think saying we are the same thing is overgeneralizing. our minds separate us. man means thinker. we are superior to animals though nowadays its politically incorrect to say so. i have no problems accepting that. doesn’t mean i think its right for us humans to impose our wills on nature as we do now.
if you wanna break it down further we’re all just masses of various molecules but that doesn’t do much to explain the different forms molecules take. everything evolves. man and animal. one day there’ll be something superior to us humans im sure. nature is constantly trying to perfect itself.
i also wouldn’t say hoots an howls are even semi comparable to the complexities of language. yes animals communicate in their own way but i dont believe its even close to the ideas and concepts we can convey through speech. how would say a dog explain quantum physics through scent markers or a whale explain western philosophy through sonographic clicks and ticks?
human language is mans greatest invention in my opinion, least until we can communicate telepathically.