Rogue,
I’m with Knifefighter on this one. Yenhoi and Kinjit are obviously right that there’s a lot more to FMA than stick dueling. But I think that was essentially your friend’s point too, yeah? That people tend to overlook the bigger picture.
I first learned FMA in a ‘McDojo.’ I had good teachers. Well qualified. From a sound lineage. But their priorities were still to run a commercially successful school with a lot of students. Largely kids. (The school taught both FMA and taekwondo.)
I think the school did an excellent job of teaching the basics. I think my footwork is one of my biggest strengths, and I have them to thank for that. But where they didn’t shine was teaching us how to put it all together. We learned single stick, double stick, stick and dagger, knifefighting, empty hand, etc. We did forms (don’t ask), full-contact sparring, drills, etc. But we didn’t take it as far as it could go, in my opinion.
There was definitely an emphasis on stick dueling. When we sparred stick, we could sweep or disarm, but we couldn’t punch or kick. When we fought empty hand, we weren’t (in my opinion) sufficiently trained to use more distinctive FMA movements. Our footwork, kicking, and hands tended to resemble taekwondo (since several of us had or were also training in taekwondo), but with low-line targets available for kicking.
It was largely a self-driven effort to go beyond that. (And I still haven’t done enough.)
I think your friend is right that the stick (knife, sword, etc.) should be regarded as part of a bigger picture. One disclaimer though: Part of why we weren’t encouraged to kick in a stick fight, for example, was that it would be relatively easy for your opponent to bash your shin, knee, etc. with his stick, making kicking a slightly more risky proposition than in strictly empty hand. But that doesn’t translate into ‘don’t kick.’ Only ‘kick appropriately.’
Stuart B.