Merryprankster,
RE: “At its core, fighting is a relationship. It’s not necessarily a positive one, but it IS a relationship between two people about WHO BEATS WHO. It IS comparative. It’s not about “attaining your potential.” It’s about winning. It’s about who is better that day–perhaps even on any given day.”. This is only true in a non-lethal combat context. REAL life-or-death combat is not about relationships, self-actualization, or attaining your potential. It isn’t about beating somebody. It’s about neutralizing the threat, period. If this includes “winning”, letting someone know they’ve been beaten, killing someone, maiming someone, poisoning someone, or whatever, that’s fine, but it’s merely a consequence of neutralizing the threat. In real combat, fixating on beating someone can get you dead. For military personnel, it’s about accomplishing the mission objectives. For civilians, it’s about surviving as intact as possible long enough to return to the safety of a normal life.
RE: “I mean, kick him in the jimmy and run is nice and it’s what we all strive for–but some time, you may run into a situation where issuing a beatdown is the only way to go.”. Absolutely agreed. And of course, even then, it’s not about beating somebody. It’s about neutralizing the threat. If this can be accomplished by nancying up in a dress and running down the street in high heels, so be it. If it must be accomplished by severing his carotid artery, so be it.
RE: “If some TMA types don’t like that, it’s because they bought into a great deal of bull****.”. Once again, agreed. For years before the UFC came along, I went around claiming that most martial arts, as practiced, were absolute bullsh*t in real combat. They still are, unfortunately.
RE: “…but if you want to have fighting skill then it’s vital to get into “who beats who” at some point.”. Close, but not quite. It’s vital to get into pressure testing your skills until you can successfully use them against full resistance. If this means “beating” someone else in the process, that’s fine, but it’s secondary.
RE: “You’ve got to be exposed to that environment (within reason–no barfights! :)).”. I more or less agree. I’ve been in situations that make barfights look like warmup practice.
RE: “Sparring often just isn’t the same. You really have to have a special set of training partners that can make sparring like a competition without letting ego become involved.”. I agree 100%…if maximizing your functional combat skill is the primary objective, this simply HAS to be done. There is no mystical or osmosis-based substitute.