I have a boyfriend who I have been seeing for 2 years now. Before we met, he knew CMA were a big part of my life. Recently, he’s been acting really jealous when it comes to my training time. For example, last night he told me I spend too much time w/ kung fu, and not enough time w/ him. He has also complained that my boobs were getting smaller from training. I guess it’s all the cardio work:)
For the last 6 months he’s been giving me hell for all the time I spend at class. I’m about ready to tell him “see ya, and kiss these puppies goodbye.” But, then again I’m not sure if he is just going through some moodiness or what.
Heres my personal opinion on the matter. I hope it helps.
I take dating seriously. Any relationship thats not more important than things, even big things like MA, is a waste of time in my opinion, and I’m probably in the relationship for the wrong reasons.
If I was ever in your situation, I would have to think deeply about how important this person is to me. Because if they are thinking about leaving me(or vice versa) because of something I do I have to make a choice. Thats the bottom line.
It sounds to me like you’ve already decided that Its over if this isnt a phase, and hence you’re saying that MA is more important to you. Then your decision is obvious whether or not it is easy.
Another question ( you have to ask yourself ) is if you are spending to much time in it. A two year relationship is not some fling. He maybe jealous, or maybe he’s not, and one might be spending a little bit too much time in MA. Well obviously he is at least a little jealous, or he wouldn’t have made the breast comment. Why dosen’t he train? Maybe if he gets into MAs, maybe he wouldn’t be so jealous, he dosen’t have to train in the same place as you. But he would be more supportive.
Or maybe he’s just PO’d cuz he’s not gettin 'nuff nookie!!!
Knock him out with a single palm or a Pi Chuan in the head and wait for a while…this forum is full of guys who find the Xingyiquan/Baguazhang, 23 years old combination very sexy…
explain that this is your second passion besides him.. and that how much u train u wont drop interest in him. He should love ya just the same even if your melons shrinks a bit. Atleast your fit right? Then u teach him.. Teach him some simple stance/pi stuff.
He’s jealous coz he LOVE you.. That is a possitive thing but he must learn how to respect you properly. Talk about this.. Calmly, without fighting.
If there´s one thing that I´ve learnt in my years of living in relationships, it´s this: don´t make sacrifices!!! You´ll only regret it later on. If he doesn´t respect you enough to tolerate your dedication to the arts, he obviously doesn´t deserve you. And complaining about your physique??? That´s just ungentlemanly. But just like ol´ red fists said, really talk to him, “put the cat on the table” (a Finnish proverb) and sort him out. And if you don´t reach an understanding, may you be strong!
Things change. What may have been a valid agrrement between you two may not be 2 years later. You really need to sit down and figure out what the deal is. Are you ignoring him when you’re not working out? Are you devoting too much time to CMA and not enough to the rest of your life? Have you hit a point where your needs and his no longer coincide?
This may or may not be Kung Fu related. It could be, but the guy might also want a way out or a way to control you. No one here can answer those questions.
Troll. Not a real girl. Real girls know that your boobs do NOT get smaller from training, they get bigger because of the underlying muscle development.
Originally posted by JasBourne
[B]Troll. Not a real girl. Real girls know that your boobs do NOT get smaller from training, they get bigger because of the underlying muscle development.
Get lost, Shaneequa.
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For real? I always thought breasts did get smaller, due to them being more fat than anything else. But then again, I don’t have a set so I don’t really know
If you are exercizing solely to lose weight, yeah, they will get “smaller” as you lose the fat surrounding the actual breast tissue. But, if you are training to be fit, then even if you drop weight, your boobs will firm up because you are building up the muscles that are underneath and the ones holding them up. So, in essence, your boobs will look better and bigger.
Then u teach him.. Teach him some simple stance/pi stuff.
