Around about what piority do you believe one would place martial arts before it really becomes an obsession in a bad way.
What I am saying is not how people in the past classify things. But how you would now.
I mean, I am certain that there are many people here who might not be able to imagine a life without martial arts. But how far are you willing to stretch this ?
For example, I really doubt that anyone here would place MA over ethical values ( well, that is a part of MA in a sense ), so we should not have to debate about people going out killing others just for their own advancement.
But how about social life ? Is anyone here willing to drop that to pursue this path to a greater degree ? How about romantic life ? How about ( given an acceptable condition ) to leave the civilised life you have now ? Or any other hobby or pursue of knowledge ?
What I mean about other pursue of knowledge is that you pursue that particular knowledge to aid your MA and that reason alone. And you don’t need to rationalise it to yourself in order to do that. If you find a piece of knowledge who in your heart will aid you MA, you will go for it. Not trying to find a far fetched reason which only your “reasoned” mind could accept and not your heart.
ummm just a little input from my history…
yeah u can get too obsessed with MA.
while i was in hong kong studying kung fu under a master there…i think actually i know i went over the line. i just spent all my time training. i neglected my gf, family, my own body, kung fu training became a fulltime obsession for me… everything i talked about was kung fu kung fu …after a short period understandably this sort of gets boring when thats the only thing u talk about. i hardly went out on a social basis. umm does lion dancing, teaching in aschool, umm…going to visit kung fu bros from overseas or visiting the competition site count? haha probably not.
anyway…i wouldn’t do that again…ummm…mayb..
I have had to quit taking 2 hobbies that I did 2 times a week to be able to train more.. I also neglect my school work ALOT. I neglect my time with my family aswell. The only thing I wont neglect is time with my gf. (not much anyway)
MA has a priority in my life but it’s not the highest priority. I would never put it above my family or my kids for any imaginable reason.
I don’t dismiss out of hand those people who put their entire effort into training. Frankly, I rather respect that. It’s just not a justifiable avenue for me to pursue right now. But if I had the chance, yeah, I would place it in a much higher priority bracket than it currently rests. --And that’s pretty high even now.
Trust yourself. If you over train, you may feel depressed or sick. When you don’t make it too class, it will make you anxious and agitated.
Training, even when it’s bitter, should make you happy and healthy. Training is used when you are not training…life is the application. Use your training to help enjoy your life.
I am so obsessed with gong fu that I actually come here to lose my time…ehehhee just kidding…I often feel torn between the fact that I want to train more, and the fact that I want to have more time for me and the persons I love…I guess it’s irreconciliable, and it is better to have a serious training while still keeping a balanced life style…training all the time can make many people around you unhappy because all this time you are not with them…that’s why back in the days, and some still do now, you had to give up on your family, on having a wife, children, maybe even work if you wanted to train as much as you could :eek:
I guess the secret is in the balance…
But in a true player way, I definitely place “CMA over bi@tches” hehehehehehheheheh
And if the girl just bugs you because “awwww, you’re training too much, I need to see you more often”, just take your best Snoop Dogg voice and go “I don’t love you hoe” heheheheheheh
Just kidding…sort of…
even though ma is more important to me than school or work, i often have to neglect it for other things so i can can have opertunity to train later (since i cant train if i’m living in poverty). Once i graduate from university i will be totally obsessed with ma.
I neglect my school work a lot too, but that has nothing to do with training or anything else.
Now given all that does take up alot of time, but if i had any interst i’d have no problems finding 20 minutes a day to study. So my problem is basicly i’m lazy.
The key to being lazy is to accept it and say “i’m a lazy mofo and that’s who i am”, that way you wont let yourself down all the time, like when you get easter vacation and you say “wow i’m so gonna study the entire vacation!” then, of course, you dont because your lazy, and you get mad at yourself and guilty because you didnt do anything.
BUT! If you just accept your lazy and you’ll never do it anyway it’s a whole lot easier.
Friday is correct, some people can get obsessed that way. This is the case with students with personal insecurities. as a result they tend to seek out a society whome they can feel belonged to. The more honest ones find a cult and go there for worship. The dishonest ones ( i mean dishonest whith themselves) go on a pretense that they are though people and invaribly find a southern kung fu school. These schools don’t require much talent, don’t spar alot and at the same time, allow the students to fit in through a code of conduct or rituals - under trhe pretense of self defence or fighting.
like when you get easter vacation and you say “wow i’m so gonna study the entire vacation!” then, of course, you dont because your lazy, and you get mad at yourself and guilty because you didnt do anything.
Yes.
Dàmn, I never do anything. I have a German test and a Visual Basic program due Monday and I haven’t started anything yet.
I am into martial arts very much but i wouldnt say obsessed i just love MA so much that i got all my friends too start watching Gong fu movies and then eventually got them to train with me. no we all have a giant training area hidden in a canyon where we goto at least twice a week for SERIOUS gong fu training
Originally posted by Ego_Extrodinaire The dishonest ones ( i mean dishonest whith themselves) go on a pretense that they are though people and invaribly find a southern kung fu school. These schools don’t require much talent, don’t spar alot and at the same time, allow the students to fit in through a code of conduct or rituals - under trhe pretense of self defence or fighting.
Or they go to a Northern school for a few weeks and when they realise its too much work (of course they never admit this to themselves or anyone else) and quit. However they remember a few of the students saying that Northern Styles are superior, so they fill the newly re-emerging void in their lives by joining an online message board, saying they trained for xx number of years and start flame wars. They say they’re paraplegic to avoid challenges from overzealous Southern practitioners.
Of course anyone who had studied ANY traditional cma or any ma at all for any significant amount of time would know that any martial art has merit and would respect all ma. However as they have almost no ma experience they have no idea about ma etiqette. This is the hole in their story that reveals what they really are - wannabe losers who have nothing better to do with their time than spend it ‘trolling’ forums dedicated to something in which they have no experience.
Since I am a student and have no gf, if my KF school opened up a “monastery” that allowed us to train and work for the school (says gardening and selling at a farmers market) but also allowed us “free time” (going out with friends, drinking, … NOTE: Many of my fellow KF school mates go dancing alot together …) I would be all in for it. There is a school like this in San Diego, the teacher owns a company and students work for him to pay for instruction and some for room and board …
anton: they mostly go to southern schools because there is a cultural feel to it all. Northern schools don’t offer the opportunity for decipleship and relive the old day in ancient china - at least what is commonly known in pop cluture. Of course i can’t discount the possiblity of what you said - with the exception that some are actually parapligics.
hi everyone, hehe i can see ego my old friend has been posting stuff here lately…thank god he is on my ignore list haha
but i saw a snippet of what he said in one of your posts.
anyway the trick to not letting him turn your thread into one of the timeless obsessions of his own is basically to pretend he isn’t here or have him on your ignore list.
just a tip for u all…
regards,
a very happy friday
ps. btw ego thanks for the encouragement, we have set up our own private lama forum.
1)(Depending on your religion) God goes 1st
2)Family goes 2nd
3)School goes third
and the rest goes after but…
Well since I am an obssesed maniac
God goes 1st in my life
Family/kung fu goes second
and so on:D
About ego don’t worry about him.The guy just likes to start stuff with the southern people (why is that? 0_o? ).Abandit, the Fish or Furry (whom I have insulted) ,and I duked it out with his buddies 5 startstep and what’s his name a couple of months ago on the shaolin board I think.
Funny thing about the ego and his buddies era when I came back to the main board someguy posted “northernmantis is in the shaolin board exposing the truth!” or something like that
Man I thought that was soo cool.
My parents flipped this morning when I told them that the ideal training time is 8 hours.My dad just said that you only need to train one hour like any other sport.
Things that come before kung fu/fitness/boxing etc
Family
My girlfriend
SOME friends (but they are close and i consider them family)
My music
That is IT
Martial arts come before my studies, personally. Unless i have lots of exams etc to do, like, life changing things. Then it would be retarded to not put work first.
I reckon everyone gets really obsessed at some stage, i was soooooo obsessed when i first started that i would CRY if i missed one lesson, cos i was being realy bad and my mother wouldnt let me go…this was YEARS ago…other kids would get punished by not being able to go out with friends, i would be punished by not being allowed to train…it was horific!!! martial arts was my life, i spoke about it day and night, it still is my life now, but not as much.
There was a point when i was training so much during the week i would forget to eat!! i even tained during my HSC, and i had heaps of pressure placed on me to ge great results cos i was the school captain… one da before my maths exam, i went to watch the tri outs for the olympics in taekeondo…
EVERYTHING of mine was associated in one way or another with martial arts… in reading time at school while others were reading novels, i was reading Bruce Lee’s biography..
yep, i would say i was obsessed, even when i used to get up at 6am and practse Tae Chi outside in the freezing cold weather.
