Fear is like fire. You can make it work for you: it can warm you in the winter, cook your food when you’re hungry, give you light when you are in the dark, and produce energy. Let it go out of control and it can hurt you, even kill you….Fear is a friend of exceptional people.”
we all know how Cus D’Amato’s proteges faced their fear
how do most TCMA students address this essential issue?
[QUOTE=lkfmdc;1249367]we all know how Cus D’Amato’s proteges faced their fear
how do most TCMA students address this essential issue?[/QUOTE]
By comforting themselves with reassuring compliments.
What is fear?
How can a man know fear, when he feels so comfy wearing silk pajamas?
I have heard something like this. “We all have fear. How to deal with it is the difference.”
Most kung fu students dont deal with fear. Their thinking is along the lines of "I dont wanna know what its like to get hit, so Il just tell everyone I train for health.
Actually training for “self improvement” should involve a lot of getting hit, that is overcoming a fear which can transfer over into other aspects of life, whether its fear or public speaking, fear of quitting smoking etc etc
Here we go with the supposition :rolleyes:
Just tell your own story instead of pretending you know how “most people” or “most schools” operate.
because you don’t.
I overcome fear by simply facing it.
Work issue with a co-worker? Face it. Speak to it. Resolve it. Know where you stand.
Physical beef? Fight. Win or lose. Get it done with if you think that is what is required for you to resolve.
and so on.
The same thing that stops you from telling your Dad you love him. that same ego bull crap applies as fear. That fear of intimacy. etc.
You won’t get over fear in one experience where you face it, Fear is with you your whole life and will present itself. You will learn to deal with it. How you deal with it is how you will identify yourself and how others will identify with you (if that has import for you.)
[QUOTE=YouKnowWho;1249411]I have heard something like this. “We all have fear. How to deal with it is the difference.”[/QUOTE]
Fear is nothing more than fear itself.
Some people like to say that fear is a beast or a demon.
Fear feeds upon fear. It grows like a tumor.
We acknowledge its existence and move on.
Do not feed the fear with more fear.
Or cut it out or off with a surgical blade.
I remember a t-shirt that said “pain is just fear leaving the body” Training brings forth a lot of pain for me, so I cant have any fear right???
I confront my fear by stalking it in a rainy night, shooting it in cold blood and claim self defence.
I don’t confront my fear. I train for health.
I confront my fear by calmly performing siu nim tao to Tibetan chanting.
I don’t think of fear or feel fear in a sport spar/sport fight situation at all. Neither any fear of getting hit or even wounded. Only fear is being killed battling the enemy, which quickly turns to rage, the rage of injustice confronting me, especially if I am protecting others. Otherwise, I don’t get it, or feel it. I’m not saying “NO FEAR”, just time and place.
when you learn to believe in yourself, and learn to control your mind in stressful and difficult situations, such as fighting, then it doesn’t matter what you are afraid of, or if you have fear or no fear.
fear, anger, hatred, love, happiness, etc. are all meaningless within a calmed mind.
like all others, fear is just an emotional response to circumstance and attachment.
you will begin to believe in yourself when you have practiced, and tested yourself, and you will learn to control your mind in various high stress situations through meditation and/or the act of putting yourself in that/those position(s).
when you have achieved a state of mind that allows you to control your emotional state, you can then use your emotions as tools to help you succeed.
fear can teach you and show you a path, or it can control you, and lead you to failure.
I don’t have any fear that I can identify.
I may be cautious about something, for example meeting a bear on the trail, but I don’t think I fear anything.
To fear you must first have something to lose. If you are already empty, you have nothing to lose, and thus no fear.
I was/am afraid of heights.
So I sky dived.
When I was younger a got a good scare in the Atlantic, so I learned how to swim PROPERLY and I learned to respect the ocean ( I swim any chance I get).
Fighting was easier.
I was never really scared of fighting BUT being, typically, the runt of the litter (LOL) I knew that size mattered, so every chance I got I would fight bigger guys.
Fear teaches us what we need to overcome.
How we go about doing that is quite easy.
DOING it, now that is another matter.
You could also just get up and answer the door naked one day.
Conquers your own fear and transfers it to the other guy/girl who knocked on your door.
we fear for things valuable for us.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YY4f4OF0BM
HAY GUYSE WATS FEAR LOL
[QUOTE=bawang;1249918]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YY4f4OF0BM
HAY GUYSE WATS FEAR LOL[/QUOTE]
That was pretty awesome…