How do you feel about dating at the kwoon, provided it is legal naturally.
Do you accept student/student, teacher/student relationships or are the a big no-no?
My View.
IMO and at all the kwoons where I trained when you step into the training area you are either a student or a teacher.
All personal stuff gets left behind, at my last kwoon they thought that me and my Wife were friends for over one year before they found out we were married.
Inside the kwoon it shouldn’t matter if you drive a tricycle or a porsche or what your financial, emotional, romantic involvements are outside the kwoon.
Heck, I don’t even know what some of my fellow students do for a living or if they are married, got kids.
If you date a someone at your kwoon keep it confined to outside the kwoon.
I’ve had a . . . baaaaaaddddddd experience with that.
Met my ex at the dojo. Real knockout. Great personality (I thought. Then, you get to know someone . . . *brir… cold . .. ****y Family’s cool, though).
Then, you work on grappling one night, and you get partnered up with HER. That’s comfortable.
I think there is nothing sexier than a woman who loves her Kung Fu. But I could see how dating at the kwoon could present problems. Especially if there is a nasty fight before a sparring class. I’d prefer to date a student/teacher of another school, so we could share secrets and keep conflict at home.
Like any relationship, if you set the groundrules early there should be no problem. I agree with LC - once you step into the training hall, the relationship is of fellow students, or of student/instructor. Leave the baggage at the door.
I’ll have to agree with the idea of dating from another school. It’s way safer, and that way if it doesn’t work out no one has to ‘quit’. I’ve heard some bad kwoon dating horror stories. Better safe than sorry.
I vote nay. I’ve had nothing but trouble with relationships where we spend a lot of time together on a vocation of some sort (office stuff is what I mean here) and I think the same would apply for a time-consuming hobby. It’s just too much of each other.
I say don’t do it. I’ve had bad experiences with it as well. Granted you should be mature enough to keep it out of your training. It’s just that these types of relationships don’t seem to work very well.
I think a lot of times us guys see a pretty girl training and become attracted to them without actually getting to know them. How someone acts inside a kwoon can be very different than how they act anywhere else.
Sure, they shouldn’t, but come on! No bloke in any gwoon can deny being turned on by a hot chick sweating and punching and kicking along with the guys.
I see all of your points in regards to keeping the kwoon/workout time completely professional but what about times when you meet, or have contact with a kwoon member off the mat? As a hypothetical, if I meet someone at my kwoon whom I joke and talk with off of the mat (say, while cleaning or before/after class), or we hit it off at a kwoon members only party (we have those), I don’t see the harm in it. Sure, during class time the focus should be on the material and not on the person, but outside the kwoon it should be alright for members to date etc so long as it does not affect the kwoon atmosphere. Just my opinion.
-ZC
Nice, sexy looking ladies and stunning blokes like me are dime a dozen, if you can’ t keep your hormones from hopping for a short time …
zen_celt.
What I am saying relationships are fine but don’t bring them into the kwoon.
Inside the kwoon it is training, training and more training.
My Sifu at times will at times ask a student to go home early or take a break for a few lessons when he sees that his mind is not fully on the training due to outside worries, etc.
Inside the kwoon your attention should be on your training, not inside your jock-strap, bank worries or anywhere else.
