I have never had a one on one confrontation except for in training and even full brunt against my master is like fighting a small battalion. How do you take yourself out of “fightmode”? I have done so but only when it furthered need for survival. What I want to know is what is the key in having mercy for your opponent?
What feelings are most likely to come after pulling out of such a mentally concentrated thinking pattern?
That’s a control issue. you have to be able to flip the killer instinct switch on and off. For most people, that’s not a problem anyway - simple everyday moral beliefs/ethics code will stop you from doing anything too drastic.
How do you gain control other wise?
You gain control by constantly assessing the situation.
If during the fight you can properly determine the lengths you will have to go in order to end the fight, you will know exactly when you can end it.
You could try to become a pacificist.
Don’t have a animal or rage setting. The colder you can be the better off. This is real important if you carry a knife or even more so a handgun.
Originally posted by rogue
Don’t have a animal or rage setting. The colder you can be the better off. This is real important if you carry a knife or even more so a handgun.
I really need to that, my hot-headedness is one of my weaknesses. I should really work on that.Cold and Stoic, is hard to do, but I’ll try.
Thanx, for the advice all.
Also wondering, if I’m colder wouldn’t I be quicker to kill than put my foot an opponents buttox.
I do have contact with “mary”
, and she makes me calm, but thats the only way in a fight.
Originally posted by Ironwind
Cold and Stoic, is hard to do, but I’ll try.
Stoics tend to be pompous @$$holes. But cold and analytical in a dangerous situation = good thing.
ooooooooooooooooh!
I see…
Anylitical I am
Plenty mean too
It’s just hard to stop…
It feels good.
It’s like my version sexual contact.
I think I’m addicted to power or something now that i think about it more.
I think i might need a pummel patch or something.
I dont start fights, they come, and I feel while I’m fighting I’m giving what they diserve…
Oops.
Iv’e been punishing my opponents for sins they might not have commited against me.
But, I still haven’t been beaten ( technically )
I think I’m going to make some phone calls and make some apoligies.
jus hope I can apoligize in a manner that doesn’t sound like I’m bragging.
Okay maybe I’ll fight the same, but apoligize later…no
I might kick somebody too hard and thier knee fly out of place.
Thats hard to apoligize for, they’d never forgive me.
okay maybe I should hit and run!?
But doesn’t that almost promise another confrontation?
I’m a bucket of questions.
Medication could help with those feelings.
lol
I needed a laugh
thanks
set yourself a limit before you fight!!!1
If its a mate or someone that is out of control, say to ur self that u just need to break a nose or finger to shock ur oponent (nothing long term) then after 1-2 blows try to exit the fight. If its a serious attack and they have a weapon, tell ur self that u need to break arms and ribs, take the eyes and groin, then get out. unless this guys about to kill u or ur sis (or its bin laden) then just do the least u have to and get out.
Originally posted by manofkent
[B]set yourself a limit before you fight!!!1
If its a mate or someone that is out of control, say to ur self that u just need to break a nose or finger to shock ur oponent (nothing long term) then after 1-2 blows try to exit the fight. If its a serious attack and they have a weapon, tell ur self that u need to break arms and ribs, take the eyes and groin, then get out. unless this guys about to kill u or ur sis (or its bin laden) then just do the least u have to and get out. [/B]
Thanks thats not so hard to do.
Being a pacifist quiversyuck.
I need action.
No probs, obv some times, like if its a surprise attack u dont have time to think bout it, but before i go pulling death moves, make sure its not ur mate ****ing about, always see the persons face before u do any real damage. And dont do an Ed Norton is fight club where he smashes that guys face over and over. We are not in old china, its not always a dual to the death.
Ironwind, I’m guessing you’re either very young or very weird. Either way, you won’t be able to keep up that mentality for long.
Originally posted by Toby
Ironwind, I’m guessing you’re either very young or very weird. Either way, you won’t be able to keep up that mentality for long.
Both, and I hope not thats why I created the thread.
To mature my mentallity.
Thanks for not taking my comments as a flame. That shows (uncommon) internet maturity for starters, so you’re doing alright.
OK, if you’re not young, but you are weird, you’ll end up in the big house if you go around hurting people beyond reasonable means.
If you’re not weird, but are young, you’ll grow up and realise that you’ll get far more respect if you’re humble. Heard the saying “Speak softly and carry a big stick”?
If you’re young and weird hopefully you won’t end up as the 1st case. What you may need is to meet an opponent who is bigger/older/stronger/better than you and who is of a similar mentality. Someone who shows you what an arsehole a person is who hurts someone for the sake of it. E.g. if someone stomps your knee, that’s potentially a lifelong injury. That sort of thing sucks. Same as damaging eyes etc. Sure, there might be a place for those techniques, but you have to justify them. If someone deserves them, fine. If not, don’t do it. E.g. if someone breaks into my house, I’d be quite happy to break bones and stomp joints. I wouldn’t go for eyes. If someone threatens my family, I’ll go for anything to stop them. Use techniques that fit the situation. Sure, you can enjoy it, but you have to be willing to receive what you’re giving. If you’re going to stomp a knee, would you feel happy/feel you deserved it to get your knee stomped?
Surely not.
I’m starting to see what my rage has done.
and please don’t send 7* to whoop my butt.
I think it’s my fault for what I’ve done, sometimes.
I was just never used to it as i grew older. Always getting jumped and hurt because i used to be fat. I was depressed because of it, and then after I learned 3 months of MA I completly beat my bullies sensless. I sent all five to the hospital. Then I was nine. I just became either addicted to the feeling of power through my insecurity or maybe it’s that I never forgave my attackers and take out my left over anger on the next group of ish talkers.
Either way I was wrong for letting my :mad: get in the way of my .
I 've been getting more into my training to keep my mind and my body occupied and trying taking my anger out by trying to put a hole in my heavy bag.
I also think that I might not yet need to go through this challenge on Saturday.
Some student at a tang soo do school in waterbury ,Ct.
I dont know his level or his art what if he tags me alot and i get vexxed on him I don’t think I’m ready for the responsibility of noy hurting him. I’m too close to 18. Besides I’m having doubts because I have a kink in my shoulder and a pain in my lower back when I’m not in stance. I don’t think I’m 1oo%. It could give him an edge against me, he’s trained to fight me he says since the summer of 03’. If i lose I’ll be upset i know it. So I won’t go just yet.
Thanks Toby.
If you defend yourselves from the bullies and thereby whoop their asses, that’s fine. If you go after them 3 months later and attack them when they’re not threatening you, that’s not so cool. That’d make you like Dubya vs Saddam, and you don’t want that ;). As to the whole anger thing, you don’t want that. It causes mistakes. Think Luke vs Darth in TESB. Darth stays cool and kicks ass. Luke loses his temper and almost dies. Well, fictional situation and all, but anyway. Also, you can use coolness as an aid. Try to cause anger in your opponent, not you. The best fighters tend to be cool, but I always enjoy seeing a fighter who laughs at his opponent, or taunts them. This suits a ****y mentality, so you have to be able to back up with action or risk being a joke. If you have an (unprofessional) opponent who can’t handle being laughed at or taunted, they will lose their cool and start making mistakes. People who lose their temper tend to overcommit and open themselves up. Your brain is your greatest weapon.
With your upcoming fight, if you’re not 100%, don’t fight. No shame in that. Fighters of different codes do it all the time. I don’t know the particulars of your injury, but you don’t want to exacerbate anything. As to losing, don’t be upset. Use it as a learning tool. Humans learn best from mistakes. If you make one (and you’re smart), you won’t usually make the same one again. Maybe you could video the fight or something. You gain far more respect from fighting and losing than from not fighting at all. If it’s a personal thing (which it sounds like it is) you may both struggle to keep your tempers, but try to and you’ll be helping yourself a lot.
As to being fat, no problem with that as long as you’re active, i.e. not a couch potato. Best thing about being fat? There’s a lot of potential for being strong as well. Big people tend to be strong. Also, mass can give you an advantage in that your opponent might struggle to upset your balance. There are a lot of ways to reduce your weight if that’s what you want. Diet and cardio will help if you do it properly.
Originally posted by Toby
[B]
As to being fat, no problem with that as long as you’re active, i.e. not a couch potato. [/B]
I used to be fat when I was nine, now I’m a lean mean kung-fu machine.
Still working on the glutes though. Females keep harasing my buttox. At first it was kinda fun being squeezed and all now it’s getting in my way. I’m semi involved with two females trying to bring it down to one. I dont need the world touching and feeling on me, so i’m working my glutes into non-existance.
It might not happen, but at least they won’t touch it if i tell’m it hurts.