Ok, so there’s this guy in class. He’s a lower rank than me and not at my skill level. He’s an older male teen and he’s home schooled. Lets call him “Asswipe”. Also in my class there is a married couple. The married couple are my friends and all three of us are at the same level.
So, when I spar “Asswipe” I try to control the round and basically show him where his openings are. He trys to sweep me a lot but I can see it coming a mile away. The last time he and I sparred he attempted to kick me in the knee. My knee was bent and my leg was rooted. So when he kicked me he hurt his foot. (he doesn’t wear shoes for some reason).
When he spars my male friend it goes pretty much the same way.
BUT when “Asswipe” spars my friends wife, he uses his size advantage against her and has taken her down a couple times. We don’t have mats.
My friend’s wife has excellent technique and speed but she lacks strength so “Asswipe” over powers her even though he has poor technique.
Basically “Asswipe” lacks control and while my friend and I can handle his lack of control I think that he is eventually going to hurt my friend’s wife. Another thing is, he seeks her out to spar her. I suspect that because she is a higher rank that he is doing this to make himself feel better. Not really sure.
I’ve told her to refuse to spar the guy but I’m tempted to talk to “Asswipe” about it. My friend on the other hand is ready to kill the guy.
I think you will be a good interseptor here. Dont let the husband handle it, he will kill the little @sswipe. I think as he seeks out her to sparr, you should seek out him to sparr. Sounds like he needs to find out what humility is.
PQ’s right. Intervene and don’t let him spar her. Maybe get one or two others in class that recognize the problem to help you. That way you can control the situation.
People like “Asswipe” give homeschoolers bad names. I was homeschooled 1st through 12th grade. Started in 1985 years before it became almost a “pop culture” thing in suburbia. Personally, I’d wipe the ground with him just for being a douche bag homeschooler. They **** me off.
Sounds like the technique is working when someone of closer size and power utilizes it but not when someone of less stature and power does … might be time to overwhole the technique.
What happens if you face a guy who is as disproportinate in size to you as he is to her?
You may also want to check out the last few pages of the thread about instructor’s bodies, some posts about girls training in there.
The only problem I see is if he’s getting his jollys off by over powering a weaker opponent. If he’s doing it so that she learns to adjust and defend, I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but it doesn’t sound like things are in that context.
The goal is to use the techniques that we are taught in class. Not to take down and potentially hurt a class mate that you have probably close to 100lbs on.
So why hasn’t your instructor stepped in to explain this to him? Give him a time out if they have and he’s not listening. My instructors have never had a problem pulling someone out of sparring until they get the message that they need to be more respectful and follow the lesson plan
Communication is a great tool, when it fails, I would use another. Hammer fist.
I sure you’ll reslove your issue with out any problems.
On the lighter side heres a story of another a$$wipe.
One of my kung fu brothers was teaching a few private students at his place. One on the students was this guy whos job is a knight at midevil times. For those that are not in the southern california area, it is a re-enactment entertainment and dinner, with jousting and the likes. A$$wipe plays a knight in the show, he really thinks he is a gd knight.
He was sparring my friend who is his teacher, his teacher was going light on him, just as the above post mentioned “to expose openings” and all that stuff. The knight landed a solid kick on my teahers ribs and was infected with a case of a swollen head. After that incedent he really thought he was the “man”.
His techers cousin is an ex mlb pitcher, bit guy 6’4 300lbs. So this the pitcher was sparring the knight and caught him in the chest with a chop choy. The knight had the wind knocked out of him, got up after getting his wind back, punched a hole in the stucko wall (he must have felt so strong!!) cursed a strom, stomped out and never came back.
If your school is anything like my school. We are stressed to show how we can use kung fu in a fight, through sparring environment. This means using skill, and technique.
I like this idea. go with it. When someone gets out of hand in the roda at my class the instructors and higher up students get in and sort of take him for a ride. It usually mellows them out a bit.
Yeah, martial arts is not for show off or beat/humiliate the weaker. Sounds like the guy needs some lessons.
Talk to him or show him the school of hard fist. If he continues after that, I would just kick him out; otherwise he will use his skills elsewhere the same way.
I see what you’re getting at here. When i spar a smaller or less experienced opponent. My goal is to always successfully use my techniques. Never to hurt someone. “Asswipe” has taken down my friends wife twice with no regard for her safety at all.
The first time, it was a two on one sparring match where she had to spar two larger people at once. She circled around and was trying to better her position when “Asswipe” lunges in and kicks her in the ankle. She flys up in the air comes down and lands on all fours. In my opinion the only purpose behind this was to try to humiliate and possibly hurt her.
Dharma is a good opener to this situation. Just try and keep him from sparring the mans wife. When sparring is done at our school, Sifu decides who sparrs who, and under what conditions. Try and bring something like this into play. If you can control who he sparrs, this problem will mellow out. With correct action on your part and his seniors, he can be shown the better path. This reminds me of something said by a wise man.
“Just because one has strayed from the path is no reason for us to turn our backs on him.”
The way is always there, and the option to return is always possible. With the correct form of guidance he will be shown the light. You said he is a teen. This says alot in its self. He is still a kid. With correct nurturing he can turn into a good man.
I agree, and to be honest, she is a little reluctant to use force or make full contact. Although she has kicked me in the face more than once. My friend and I are trying to get her to make more contact. She is making progress but she is still intimidated, and rightly so, by a guy who is almost twice her size.