This happened to me tonight and I thought I’d vent. Today in Shuai Jiao class I sparred a guy named Er Bao. He is the same weight as me a little shorter and very stocky. I’ve sparred him before and done pretty well but tonight he demolished me.
I was tired and he was fresh but no excuses I got owned. He has been training for a long time so I guess I shoudn’t feel bad but the ego will never go away completely.
In a way I guess you aren’t training right if your not getting your ass handed to you once in a while.
did getting owned byt that dude teach you anything? i always found in judo i learned the most when i was winning the least. even if all i learned was everyone has an off night. but usually those nights helped me figure out the flaws in my technique and the next morning the soreness and pain helped hammer those lessons home. just a thought.
In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. it’s practice. you should be happy to get your ass handed to you there. If I trained at a place where I could be EVERYONE all the time, I would leave and find a new school. getting tolled is part of the process. It will happen alot in training, and if you compete, it will happen their too. It’s just part of the game.
these things happen from time to time. from my experience these times help build humility as well as time to self reflect. realizing & learning what mistakes you made & how to avoid them next time so you can become a better fighter, practitioner & martial artist. even from losing we still walk away with some knowledge & insight.
[QUOTE=SevenStar;725207]In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. it’s practice. you should be happy to get your ass handed to you there. If I trained at a place where I could be EVERYONE all the time, I would leave and find a new school. getting tolled is part of the process. It will happen alot in training, and if you compete, it will happen their too. It’s just part of the game.[/QUOTE]
Uh, not if you’re Chuck Norris. The only time Chuck Norris loses is when he feels bad for the other guy and wants to let someone else feel what it’s like to taste victory. Except Chuck Norris never feels bad, so he never loses.
I once attended a school where I injured three instructors on separate occasions, separated by a space of two weeks each. I wasn’t even going full steam, and they were with simple defensive maneuvers I’d learned from those instructors–and boy, they liked to beat on students in sparring. I left that school pretty quick. Not to say I thought that I was better—but hell, they oughtta be better than that, and they shouldn’t have even been the one’s sparring newbs all the time. I found a school (I was pretty good from the start) where on the third day a third degree black (and this is the guy I always come home bruised from in sparring) handed my ass to me. Nothing I’d learned before at that other school did me any good. He just kind of smiled and planted a fist on the end of my nose. It was embarrassing…I got so ****ed at him every time we sparred after that…I’d ask the other guys: “you ever sparred with ‘[anonymous]’?” They’d be like–naw man, but I’ve heard from some of the black belts say he’s untouchable. Then I got to thinking maybe he had some kind of ego and was picking on me. So I got an attitude with him. I never said anything mean or insulting, I just was just kind of cold. Well, he continued sparring with me. He started teaching me a thing or two. And every once and a while, he still comes in and says: “Hey man, wanna spar?” Other guys say: “Man, how come you always get to spar [anonymous]?”
Man, I jump on that opportunity every time. I’m 10 X better now. I take it as a compliment now.
[QUOTE=SevenStar;725207]In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. it’s practice. you should be happy to get your ass handed to you there. If I trained at a place where I could be EVERYONE all the time, I would leave and find a new school. getting tolled is part of the process. It will happen alot in training, and if you compete, it will happen their too. It’s just part of the game.[/QUOTE]
right right … but i dont think he was bothered so much about getting his ass handed to him as much as just having a bad night in general. you know the nights … you get used to them, but even now they still bother me a little. you walk out thinking man .. i know im better than that … should i have even bothered coming tonight? eventually ive accepted that a bad session is still a session, but it took a while.
I am training Aikido as well as Tai Chi. My Aikido teacher told me that there is more to learn from being the one who receives the technique than the one carrying it out. I admit that he was right. I corrected many errors in my movements just by receiving the techniques on me.