Seems like you have a good friend and ally there. its hard to gage what to really do in times like these. i guess it would be safe to be honorable and not stoop to the level of your friend. remember these encounters are only for exhibition and friendly exchange of hands. its not a fight,its not a life and death situation. take comfort on what your abilities are and do not allow yourself to be knocked off center, for you never know that this guy might be better than what he lets on to be and if you take your sparring with him to the next level he will probably do the same and then you have a situation where an enemy might be made. do you really want that to happen? people are people and will act how they act, if he is a rude and brash personality then just accept this about him and be his friend regardless.
on the other hand: sometimes you need to swat the mosquito if it is buzzing your ear too much.
Many Respects ,The Willow Sword
I understand what you are trying to say but you misunderstand. I’m not going to fight the guy to teach him a lesson. I just said that so you knew that his behavior isn’t only present in his kung fu.
I got no real problems with the guy, it’s just that he keeps throwing insults at me and quite frankly I’m getting tired of it. I’m sorry if I seemed that I want to hurt my friend, I guess my anger was doing all the talking.
Hmmmmmmmmmm…try BOON TIT NHUNG. I can’t spell so it’s like a soft stuff pasta like food with fish sauce. It’s ok! God I eat viet food like PHO etc…I just don’t eat it no more.
Slap the **** out of ya friend then spray paint him USA when he’s unconscious!
There is this thing for handling cases like insulting: be like Buddah in the temple. If you swear at it, insulting it, it will still remain respectful calm face and ignor you. Unless there are physical attackes to wore off. If he thinks that the insulting things he did can work on you, it definitly work on him. So if that didn’t work on you, then you have shown you are greater than what he expected.
Originally posted by LEGEND
[B]Hmmmmmmmmmm…try BOON TIT NHUNG. I can’t spell so it’s like a soft stuff pasta like food with fish sauce. It’s ok! God I eat viet food like PHO etc…I just don’t eat it no more.
Slap the **** out of ya friend then spray paint him USA when he’s unconscious! [/B]
i had a friend like this up until about 6 moths ago. most of the time he was one of the coolest guys you’d ever know and then out of no where he’d start acting like a real *******. it would eventually get to the point where i’d end up telling him to fu ck off. he’d fu ck off for a couple weeks or so and then he’d come backl and either apologize or act like nothing happened. this went on for about 6 or 7 years. like i said, most of the time he was a hell of a guy. but this last time i’d had enough. he rocked the boat for the last time and i have nothing more to do with him. you just have to be persistant and not mind being an ******* yourself when neccessary. as far as the family goes, they will have to understand their son/brother in law/etc isn’t worth talking to. i still talk to this guys wife on occasion, but i have to keep reminding her that i never want anything to do with her husband again. she drops it and we continue talking about whatever. if this kid is a ******* all the time i can’t imagine why you’re still hanging out with him. fu ck him. life is too short to be wasting time with people who tend to do nothing more than suck it out of you.
Challenge him to a grappling match in front of her and beat him with a ude garame. I did it once. It’s fun!
LOL, sorry… (I’m dead tired, and haven’t gotten much sleep… and yeah I know she’s back in Japan.)
Honestly it sounds like he’s somewhat intimidated by you, and needs to try and prove his manhood and skill to himself. If you spar and go all out… rest assured it might turn into something bad, and you may lose that friendship if you guys aren’t careful.
Like anything else, I’d talk it out and see his side of the story. But to me it sounds like he was frustrated that he got beat the first few times.
Personally, I would tell him that you want a chat.
Tell him to either listen to you or if he doesn’t want to that your friendship is not worth enough to him.
Tell him?in clear words how you feel about his behaviour and that continuing/repeat of that behaviour = end of friendship and possible …
From what you said it sounds like he doesn’t care much for anybody around him, and personally I think you should tell him that you don’t want to see his face anymore and why.
I had a similar problem once with a friend that decided he didn’t like me no longer, but still wanted to be buddies with my fiancee.Came around being all nice to her, while ingnoring me in my own house.
I bassically told him to close the door from the other side and never to approach it again, unless we was willing to be treated as an uninvited person in my house.
Screw him, dude, the guy’s baggage. He’s a tool. You know it and we all know it. He can’t get over his own insecurities to you and that’s his problem. You’ve shown great wu de so far with how you’ve handled the situation. Now walk away. This world is so full of dickheads that every once in a while you have to clear out your closet and remember the people that are important to you. He’s taking up time that you’ll never have again.
Okay. With Friends like that, who needs enemies? I had a couple friends like that once in highschool. And I’ll tell you right now, more than likely what ever you do will back fire in your face.
If you spar him, and beat him, from what you’ve said about him already, he’ll likely turn the whole thing around, call you over-aggressive, and turn the whole thing in to a big controversial thing no matter how clear the rules were in the beginning ultimately making YOU look like the bad guy in the end.
I suppose you could just take it, like you always have been, try to be diplomatic but it didn’t work in the past, he doens’t take you seriously, and in the end, he may wind up learning some decent Kung Fu in the furture and you’ll simply wind up being his emotional, and physical punching bag.
and then there’s you final option. Just leave him be. Alone. Almost “shun” him if you will. You’re better than he is, you know it and that’s all thats important. If he ask why you’re not hangin’ around tell him the truth. “Your pretty much a jerk man. To me and to most other people that are around you. I don’t want to get mixed up with you anymore. I’ll see you around.” Then walk away. If he finds this as an insult and wants to fight, then MAYBE it might be payback time. But hopefully you can walk away peacefully, and in a few months you’ll wonder why the heck you didn’t do that a long time ago.
Adding more info. and you may find it useful if you see the situation fit.
If he claim to know kungfu, ask him to define so called “wu de” the martial moral. And the 10 rules of teaching kungfu. If he don’t know, tell him to research on his own. At the way he behave, his master should be shamed to teach him since he clearly violated many rules.
Right, I got it Ude Garame. Now if I only knew what it was. Hopefully knowing the name is enough to scare the pants of people
Paul Lin-
The guy has no wu de at all because he says “Chinese have no honor” or something like that. He even went as far as saying that he only respects style not the person. That to me said a lot about him. His views on what martial vitue are a combination of the karate kid and what normal people think how wu de should be. To tell the truth he prefers the social life of the Samurai in the feudal era, back when being a wealthy merchant was shunned by military class because it was considered low.
Unfortunately his master (who’s name I will not mention in respect to him and his school) had an unfortunate death. I don’t think his master would have approved of his behavior at all. It’s sad really, since his master is very well respected was really famous in Hong Kong and south east Asia for being a good fighter. Actually some of the students of his school are on kfo so they’ll know what I mean, but I have chosen to leave the school and sifu out of this.
It’s strange really. He practices kung fu but considers Japanese to be of a higher class. Sometimes he even goes as low as to challenge me in video games to show that Japanese are better fighters than Chinese . A while back we were playing Soul Calibur and he told me that this one Japanese character had superior sword skills because he knew the Mitsurugi [sp?] sword style made by Mushashi:eek: . Whatever your reaction you have right now is the same way I reacted at that moment. Guess who got schooled by the guy with the staff? Same thing happened when we went to the movies with my friends. We were playing Tekken 3 in this mini arcade and he picked this guy that does Goju, I think, and he asked me to pick a Chinese character. He won his matches in the game and then was walking around like he was like the king or something. I’m like what the heck man, if you like Japanese martial arts better why don’t you go take Karate or Judo?
Now that I’m thinking about it he has some serious problems going on. He doesn’t get along with his family, he actually told me this. He treats his sister bad. The way he talked about leaving his baby niece around a couple months back was horrible and disturbing, although he’s gotten to like her now. He shows no understanding or compassion towards children at all. He seems to forget that he cried a lot also when he was a child, needed attention when he was a child,drooled and anything else that a normal child does.
I’m considering my options and it seems that his friendship is not worth it. However he is being nice to me at the moment, like he sparingly does, at I feel guilty about considering ending my friendship with him.
“Nothing is forever” Sounds like your friend has some problems to iron out. Applied physical phycology would definetly be in order, but being a friend this is not your place. I would suggest giving him a lot of space and let nature take it’s course.
Don’t let it bother you personaly. If he acts this hateful to you and everyone then it’s not your fault, your just someone he thinks he can take his anger out on. Chances are he will never have any kind of good friendships with anyone because he will most likely do the same things to them. It’s not worth it to let someone take advantage of you just because they can.
Originally posted by guohuen “Nothing is forever” Sounds like your friend has some problems to iron out. Applied physical phycology would definetly be in order, but being a friend this is not your place. I would suggest giving him a lot of space and let nature take it’s course.
From what you have said, it sounds really serious. I agree with guohuen’s opinion, he need help, professional help. It sounds not far for him to committing serious crimes or accidents. You better taking care of yourself and becareful with him.
Sounds like a VIET LOSER to me…he might have been dogged out by some chinese girl or tagged by some chinese peeps! HAHAHA! I wonder what he thinks about his own nationality…the vietnamese??? Hmmmmmmmmm…might see some self hate there bro! Regarding the chinese vs. japanese thang…he likes the technology…prob. why…plus he prob. into the car racer thang( fast and furious )! I met a few CMA guys that admire MUSHASHI etc…that boy is just living in a dream world. We’ll see what type of man he becomes when he’s parent kick him out the house!
I’m planning to talk to the guy at the end of the week. Yeah he told me he doesn’t like Viets,or Asian girls as a matter of fact, and he prefers Spanish. I’m like what? Here I am ,a Hispanic guy that gots a thing for Asian women, and he, a Viet, prefers anything other than Asians It’s pretty funny.
So you like flips huh? I thought Viets and Filipinos didn’t get along? Better watch it though, those Pinay are are hearbreakers and crazy too. I haven’t met a Filipine girl yet that was normal. Well except this one that had really really good kung fu. Gave me a run for my money.:eek:
lol he’s not one of those rice boys but he is into cars. His brother is into it though ( I imagine). Cool guy. It’s not technology wise it’s more like the social structure.
Now I feel even worse. The guy aske me to come to a party at his house tomorrow and I couln’t say no. On the plus side there will be Vietnamese ladies there:D
Remember it! 
. A while back we were playing Soul Calibur and he told me that this one Japanese character had superior sword skills because he knew the Mitsurugi [sp?] sword style made by Mushashi:eek: 
On the plus side there will be Vietnamese ladies there:D