My gf was looking in the mirror last night, and she said to me “do you think my arse (a$$) is bigger now than it was two years ago?” So I, being very naive, said “yes, I think it probably is”.
Now shes paraniod about her arse being big. I didn’t say it was big, I just said it was bigger, its still a nice arse.
Anyway, she asked me the best way to lose weight off her behind. Bearing in mind that we are currrently working like hell to get enough money to go away (in the eveninings etc.) she doesn’t have time for classes in anything, and doesn’t want to spend her two nights off a week exercising, which is fair enough.
Also bearing in mind she is paranoid about her stomach too, i told her to take a run whenver she could.
Ok first mistake was answering that question. Whenever a girl asks that question, pretend you didn’t hear her. If that fails pretend to fall asleep, or run out of the room as if you forgot to do something important.
But in all seriousness…you can’t spot reduce fat. Your body will take the fat off in the reverse order it put it on. Think of fat as people getting into an elevator. The first to get on the elevator will be the last to get off. Basically diet and cardio will do the trick. Don’t just focus on the exercises that would work that area. If you do you will potentially look worse. Meaning if you build up those muscles but the fat is still there it will just look like more fat.
Tough break dude. Pietro is right you just can’t win on the “do I look fat?” question.
He is also right that cardio and diet are the way to address it, and I don’t mean go on a diet as much as pay attention to what you are eating. Recognizing that you have to exercise more to burn off the calories from a deep fried cheese burger than a bunch of broccolli is the first step.
I am trying to exercise with my wife whenever she wants, some times it’s a walk after work, sometimes it’s a game of tennis. She just needs some companionship for motivation.
Good luck, I seem to be having problems with my own beer gut, gained 7 pounds over the holidays.
So what you’re saying is, rather than doing squats or something (I don’t mean with a barbell) or horse stance (which I can always feel working my buns) get her to run, and watch what she eats.
Yeah?
And with regards to the question, yeah I know, I’m young and naive. I knew I shouldn’t have answered, but I kind of thought she’d appreciate it if I was honest. :rolleyes:
“Do these clothes make me look fat?”
“No, dear. It’s the FAT that makes you look fat.”
“Do I look fat?”
“Compared to what, a whale? No.”
or
“Just because you can’t see yourself completely in that full size mirror doesn’t mean you’re fat.”
“You’re so shallow. You only care about the outside, you don’t know what’s on the inside.”
“Yeah I do know what’s in your inside. Ho-Ho’s, Twinkles, Cupcakes, and Cookies.”
“Will you still love me if I gained like 100 lbs?”
“Yeah… from a distance. Now let me sleep woman!”
Besides, there’s nothing wrong with a nice cushion for the pushin’, na’ mean? Women in general don’t have a clue to what guys think is physically attractive. They base many of their misconceptions on models and fashion magazines, all of which portray a sense of physical beauty as interpreted by (1) women or (2) gay men. And what do they know about what men want?
Yeah dude tell her those ****ing skinny ass supermodels that grace all fashion magazines are ugly as ****. Uh, do I want a chick with the body of a 12 year old boy? No thanks.
Regular aerobic exercise will burn calories and fat, but if you follow the Tabata method, your body is forced to metabolize your fat to meet the demands you are placing on it. (ie, the quickest way to burn fat) Check out an article about it:
So, you guys don’t find Cindy Crawford and others attractive? Or even the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit models?
Or is it that you do find them attractive, but what you find more attractive is the woman who agrees to sleep with you on a regular basis?
Just curious.
I never liked being a waif myself, so I’m toning and building some muscle, but that’s to make me feel comfortable. But, it would be helpful to know if men find that attractive, too.
Or is it that you do find them attractive, but what you find more attractive is the woman who agrees to sleep with you on a regular basis?
that’s all that really matters to the guys. ha ha haaaa.
Personally I think women who work out are more attractive than the waif types. I have dated women who were of the waif type build and they seem too fragile to me.
For me personally, a healthy woman both in mind and body is a beautiful one. Whether that’s athletic build or what not, that is what matters.
Excessive dieting, obsession with personal image, etc. are all indicative of an unhealthy outlook and skewed perspective on what’s important. And that’s what I can’t stand. Healthy mind helps cultivate a healthy body.
Eat right, exercise properly, don’t be obsessed with looks, and everything will be fine.
And learn to shake your thang when the music hits the floor.
And I’m very attracted to a woman that can watch my back when the bottles and the fists start flying.
I would not respect it if my girl spends half her life looking for the right set of heals and the other half making sure her face hasn’t fallen off on that cup of coffee she had 2 minutes ago.
If you have ever read any of Tim Allen’s books, you would have known that there is no correct answer for that question. Once the question is asked it is too late - you are trapped and there is no way out.
RobinF: Minorly built chicks are hot, if you wanna jes get “Comfortable” thats great, girls need to be “Comfortable” with themselves to be “Comfortable”(truly) with guys, and a girl who is comfortable, confident, not conceited, and openminded is jes da best type of chick
Everyone: Do you guys think just eating right and exercising makes you LOOK better? like, in the face too? Seriously, cuz i was thinkin about that a while back…im interested in everyones opinion
Everyone seems pretty well adjusted on this front. What are we doing on KFO?
Apprentice: I think being fit and healthy, you can see it in your face, yeah. You kind of have a healthy glow I think. Dunno if its something to do with more blood being pumped around or what.
I think eating right and exercising regularly helps the face look younger. I don’t have any studies to back me up, but anecdotal evidence. When I was between 17 and 20, overweight, not exercising, people thought I was older. I could buy alcohol and was never carded (age to buy alcohol here is 21). People are now surprised when I tell them I’m 29 (actually, I say I’m almost 30; people seem to respect 30 more than 29).
Sorry to take so long to reply. What I was getting at was what Pietro mentioned, you do not want to specifically target the buttocks or abdomen for spot fat reduction. The only way to spot reduce fat is through liposuction. Run, swim, bike it doesn’t matter the idea is you want to get your heart rate up and burn calories. Honestly MA training is the best workout one can get, but perhaps your lady isn’t in to it. My wife won’t train with me, she has a distaste for MA after going to old school Kungfu movies in San Francisco’s Chinatown every weekend as a kid.
Robin:
There are many different preferences among men. Personally I think that a self confident woman is particularly attractive, but yes I must admit that I find a certain amount of muscle tone appealing.
