[QUOTE=neilhytholt;755427]It helps when they’re divorcing you and trying to take your kids and your $$$.
It tends to give you less time to worry about things when you’re in the middle of fighting for custody and trying to keep her from taking your assets. :)[/QUOTE]
STFU you POS!
Have Gene Ching kick you in the sack.
When I finally got kicked to the curb by my first big love I went out and bought a candy apple red guitar to celebrate. I still have and play that guitar. Life is good.
[QUOTE=rogue;755440]Have Gene Ching kick you in the sack.
When I finally got kicked to the curb by my first big love I went out and bought a candy apple red guitar to celebrate. I still have and play that guitar. Life is good.[/QUOTE]
Word.
Allow yourself to re-introduce yourself to yourself.
a phoenix crashes and burns and is reborn from the ashes. You are the phoenix.
Work on yourself. Start running every morning,adding sprints. Do the Body For Life total transformation. Buy some nice clothes for yourself, and a bottle of your fave cologne. Splurge. You deserve it. By summer, you will be awesome.
Re-connect with friends that fell by the wayside when she took over your life.
Move on. Another chapter in your life.
Of course, there is also adultfriendfinder,fling,bootycall, and such to fill in the gaps…
http://ezine.kungfumagazine.com/forum/showthread.php?t=45906
heres how one young south korean immigrant dealt with it the other day
24 hour rule. give your self 24 hours to completly immerse yourself in your sadness, regret, anger whatever after 24 hours slap a smile on your face and go about your business.
if its a really long relationship than i say you go through all the seasons single. one full year. in that time redefine who you are as a single person. get new clothes, a new workout, new hobbies a few new friends. no matter what don’t contact the ex. just try to have as much fun as you can and embrace the freedom of only being responsible for yourself and having little to no accountability for the dumb **** you want to do.
(unless there are kids involved in which case i have no advice)
[quote/]heres how one young south korean immigrant dealt with it the other day [/quote]
live and let live. mensch.
:mad: :eek: 
[QUOTE=golden arhat;755552]http://ezine.kungfumagazine.com/forum/showthread.php?t=45906
heres how one young south korean immigrant dealt with it the other day[/QUOTE]
live and let live. mensch.
:mad: :eek:
sometimes, we have to break up the old, so that we may build something new.
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:eek:
long hours of physical exertion coupled with mental reflection.
To me, when in the past i have gone through a break up, often times i am emotionally over it very fast. The total change in my life and the void that seems to be left is what gets me. (really depends on the severity of the relationship) Once life re adjusts to being without that person there, the poor mood is completely gone.
Recognize your emotions for what they are - delusion and attachment. Breath. Move on. Enjoy.
I have to admit that best thing I ever got out of the whole martial arts thing was a good healthy sense of detachment. Learning to recognize the nature of the mind and the ability to stay calm in any kind of storm.
Coming from some fairly high-strung (in a non-annoying way) genetic stock, this was a true blessing. When I was really young, I’d get all torn up. Until about my Junior year in HS, I realized my perspective was totally stupid. Somewhere by my mid-twenties my free-fighting mindset crossed over to my daily life.
This is perhaps the best value of a combat sport and a good coach. You can do combat sports without acheiving this, but training with people who get the psychology of it all - it’s priceless, man.
Being detached has also helped by making my choices good. I’m the happiest married guy I know - because my resoning for choosing the relationship were based on objective factors - not any fleeting delusions.
[QUOTE=Mas Judt;755951]I have to admit that best thing I ever got out of the whole martial arts thing was a good healthy sense of detachment. Learning to recognize the nature of the mind and the ability to stay calm in any kind of storm.
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Nicely put. But sometimes the ability to not freek out makes others uncomfortable… I was once told that I can’t be taking my job seriously because nothing, even a bum-chewing from the big boss, makes me loose my cool unless I’m sick or something.
… Was told much the same thing by every one of my exes… I guess a woman who doesn’t bawl like a 2-year-old at a well earned speeding ticket is freekish?
Dunno. I just stay single and happy now. 
Single & Free - spent a good part of my adult life like that. I dated a lot, but simply did not see the advantage to ‘getting involved’ with women who were not suitable for a real long-term thing. I was so happy as a single guy that some of my friends didn’t show at my wedding, thinking it was a joke!
Oh well.
Detachment is a powerful tool. The other opton just seems to be living as a victim to random thoughts and chermical secretions.
Becca,
What I find really funny is that most men find most women ‘crazy’ - and when I look at most men objectively - well they are crazy too. It’s hard to find a rationale person who agrees with your own craziness 
In order to adapt to the need for women to randomly bust out crying, I suggest you practice just bawling like a nutter at random, inconsequential events. It might not improve others reaction to you, but at least you can have fun watching them react to you…
[QUOTE=Mas Judt;755975]In order to adapt to the need for women to randomly bust out crying, I suggest you practice just bawling like a nutter at random, inconsequential events. It might not improve others reaction to you, but at least you can have fun watching them react to you…[/QUOTE]
rotflmao!!! Sounds like something I might actually do…
sing your feelings out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7LnlAewCxY&mode=related&search=
strings of love songs from 1990’s till present.
The gift that keeps on giving. Last year I found a recent picture of the girl that dumped me, and she was pasty and looked all of her 41 years. Meanwhile Mrs. Rogue is the same age but looks to be in her early to mid 30’s, has wash board abs and a very sweet figure. Life is really, really good.
So if one dumps you keep your eyes out for that next girl.
WATCH DEPRESSIVE MOVIES.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nL17HQShRs8&mode=related&search=
there is some one out there worse than you.
we do not feel that bad any more.
Seka Chu.
world crying/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4fu4iH95Ig
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PnrafWH6fDI&mode=related&search=
the movie link is a very sad one.
my sis insisted on me to watch and speak from the heart.
since a little kid, I tended to be overanalytical of things, thus I tend to be detached, emotionless, feelingless, senseless etc.
I promised my sister that I would watch the movie and speak from the heart.
true love:
a promise kept. the boy saku taro and the girl aki are high school sweet hearts. unfortunately, aki had leukemia. they communicated via audio tapes. from introducing each other, what they like and dun like, – to date, — all the way to the last tape.
when they promised each other something, they would do them. the last promise being a visit to ururu or high ground in australia where the natives believe to be holy ground and the center of the world.
be grateful for being able to support each other and keep each other company. in the last tape, aki said thank you for all the days and events that saku kept her company till the very end.
wanting to be remembered. at first. aki knew she would soon be gone. she wanted a wedding picture to be remembered by. aki smiled in the picture. saku was sad and did not smile.
letting things go. in the last tape, in contrast to the wedding pic, aki wanted saku to spread her ashes over the ururu high ground and finish the promise or last wish. aki wanted saku to move on with his life after that.
wanting whatever the best for him or her.
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ritsuko was sending the last audio tape and hit by a car, became crippled. –
the last audio tape was not delivered till much later.
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a closure for 3 of them.
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drink a lot, screw hookers and snort lines of blow off their ass.
once you get bored of that, straighten out and get back to life.
lol