I was harassed.

ok, heres story for you…

A few mornings ago i was sleeping at my sisters place, and she lives quite a distance from my home, so because i know she is always late for work i agree that she can drop me off at her daughters school with her daughter and i will walk the rest of the way home which is about an hours walk. Its no problem for me.

So, i walk for about half an hour and then i decide to avoid traffic and prying eyes and cut through a really long track that i used to daily run on. Its 8am, bit foggy in Sydney, and there are no people about, only trees, the track and the long river that runs beside the track.

I walk with my usual fast pace and pass maybe two people, say hi, and keep walking.

I have about twenty mintues left of the track and then 15minutes out on the road towards home.

I see a guy dressed in a white sleevless top and really short shorts on a bike riding in my direction. As he passes he slows down to say hi, i reply hi quitely and keep going.

30seconds or so later i turn around and find him right behind me again. He starts talking to me. He says that i shouldnt go in the direction that i am heading because the council workers are spraying chemicals, and suggests another path for me. I say, its ok, chemicals dont bother me and keep going. He stays riding right beside me, and at this point there a more trees and a really steep turn where no one can see you. He asks me what nationality i am and i tell him i was born and raised in australia. he tells me he greek. I say nothing. He keeps talking. He then asks me what is my hurry, i casually look at him and hold his stare and tell him i have a busy day. He tells me, whats wrong? dont you like me? dont you like my wog face? I ignore him and keep walking. get what he does.

He rides ahead of me, stops his bike a few metres ahead to block my path and gets of his bike. He leans over his bike pretending to inspect it. First thought that hits my head “Houston we have a problem”. I think ok Tae Li, five years of training, sure he is big, but you can take him on, get over and done with, dump him in the river and make the story ironic, take off with his bike…hehehe

He looks up and pulls his short shorts right up his crotch. He was starting to **** me off, i mean he was ruining my morning walk. Still noone was in sight. I walk and quickly run through some self defence tactics in my head, but instead i look hi straight in th eye and hold his stare forvere as if sending him a private message to say “dont try anything buddy, your messing with the wrong girl”, and get this, he actaully doesnt grab me and try to drag me into the trees and do whatever it is he had on his mind. He understood my stare very well. I keep going and the he gets back on his bike and says again, why dont you like me? am i ugly he says?

i say, no no, its not that, its just my bf wouldnt be too happy about it. he says what nationality is your bf? i tell him Chinese. Then he says (he had alot of nerve!) IS HE BIG DOWNSTAIRS? i look at him and say very bluntly youll have to ask him yourself.

Finally we see some poeple and he rides off when he sees them as well.

I walk home.

All i can say is that this guy who was big in build had intention to comit an unlawful act that morning. I was only, it was foggy, too many tress and noone around, his foul harrassing language only meant he was only after one thing.

Tae Li.

That guy sounds like bad trouble waiting to happen!

I mean any ‘man’ who wears short shorts is obviously a problem:eek:
He sounds pretty nuckin futs, still im writing down his pick up lines… They just may work:p :cool: :rolleyes:

Well handled!
I can’t say that I would have contained myself as well as you did. I would have probably done something stupid and got my ass whooped (and probly more :()

lol! he just really p!ssed mr off you know? I mean who the h3ll does he think he is trying tonpick on a female walking all alone.

Sometimes i wish that he did try something, i would love to make an example out of him and teach all those scumbags who think rape is a good thing by kicking his dirty arse in!

what a ba5tard! he really really really p!ssed me off.

Thinking he has power cos he has a bike and cos he’s a male with external genitals. arsehole.

naah dont think he was gonna do anything to ya.. Where I live, that kind of thing is considered a pick-up line :rolleyes:

U acted good, with a clear head.

he is still an annoying punk.

I was just trying to get to know you! No, really that is bad.

Ummm..

It’s not because he’s male, per se, it’s because he’s not a very nice person.

actually, ya can blame it all on being a male.. anyway :rolleyes:
I’m not saying that I’m like that, but many here seem to fall for that kind. Dunno why Heeh Heh

Good to hear you´re ok.
I think you did the right thing,when I first saw your post I thought this is going to be a dirty encounter,but I was wrong.
You do have a good kung-fu.

Now you know how Jet feels!

Just kidding. I have never understood bucketheads like that. It is easy to tell if someone isn’t interested. You could have been in a really bad situation. Personally if I would have seen it I would have pounded him. I guess it is because about a month ago my wife was driving on the highway in the Tahoe. She looked over to the left and there was a guy in a corvette pacing her while stroking himself(yeah he was actually doing the five-knuckle chuckle while driving) and smiling. What kind of crap is that? That stuff really chaps my ass. Now I am irritated just thinking about that.

Although, I should hasten to add that I’ve never heard of a woman coming on quite like that… :slight_smile:

Good job handling the situation, that death stare is priceless for detering trouble, creeps generally are looking for ‘victims’ and you definately didnt play that meek role.

Maybe start carrying a weapon (knife, mace?) and a cell phone on your walks if you don’t already. Not that you wouldnt have kicked his butt, although superior firepower always helps. There are a lot of @ssholes & crazies out there, monsters are real…

A good whoppin..ahem..walking stick is a good idea too. My mother-in-law walks with a 3 ft long, 1.5 inch diameter wood stick. Looks very inconspicuous but could do some damage if the need arose.

“who does he think he is”

He knows exactly who he is - an insecure @sshole with domination fantasies.

You did the right thing, you engaged him as little as possible and got yourself out of there. Consider learning how to use a cane as a weapon and taking one with you on your walks. Consider a good quality tazer.

I’ve done a lot of study around the issue of rape versus other assault, and that guy is right on the fasttrack for one of the most common patterns, the “power reassurance” rapist. Remember that rape is assault with sex as the weapon. The purpose is to degrade the victim and reinforce the attackers esteem.

If this place is one of your usual walking places, you will most likely run into him again. He is an opportunist, so try to minimize his opportunities to harm you. Be aware, be safe.

Glad you’re ok Tae Li. Coulda been nasty…

Those guys have given good advice :0

david

Hey Tae Li, glad to hear things are okay.
(First off, not all Greeks are such perverts…and Water Dragon, if you start with the Greek jokes, I swear to God! LOL)

anyway getting back to the issue at hand. It sounds like you had the right kind of mindset and confidence to back off a potential predator. People say he probably wasn’t going to do anything, but “probably” isn’t something I’d like to take chances with. You did great in that situation, however be careful of letting people get too close to you while talking. Since he was on his bike it might make it harder for him to do anything, but still there’s a very real danger when someone invades your space. You’ve got to be ready to throw the first strike and keep on punching. But it sounds like you were ready anyway :slight_smile:
You have a very clear head, and your understanding of what he was trying to do while “fixing his bike” was great street smarts.
A lot of women might not even pay attention to it. Awareness is the thing that gives you the advantage in any situation.
Anyway, go over the scenario and try to figure out what you did right, what you did wrong, etc. Analyze the real world experience so that you can use it if there ever (God forbid) is another experience similar.

:slight_smile: Really happy to hear you’re all right, and sounds like you’ve got some killer instinct in you too! :smiley:
Good job.

P.S. Jet Li still sucks. :smiley:

Ryu

Find yourself a lawyer and tell him that story real slow in a sensuous voice. He’ll probably get a hard on and take the case.

Seriously, though, glad you’re okay. I thought Sydney was one of the few relatively safe places left in the world? What’s with you Aussies, anyway?

Tae,
Just began thinking about this in a different way.
Wanted to make sure that you don´t have to carry that kind of stuff on your own shoulders alone.
I know that getting attacked may cause internal injury and if you feel even mild discomfort I guess that talking to your relatives,friends and such would not hurt.
:slight_smile:

Tae Li - what part of Sydney were you in? Glad to hear you came out of that OK.

Budokan - Sydney is still relatively safe, but getting worse by the day. Really depends on what part of Sydney you are in.