Hey guys, feeling low,
not training , flogging down quite a bit of vodka right about now straight from the bottle, its really cold outside. Not motivated to do anything constructive right now, little bit of tension in the environment as well, I was wondering if anybody has any ideas of what to do to get through this. Id really like to spar or take out some of these pent up emotions on a bag or something but i cant, theres no one or nothing around. and nobody to talk to.
if i try to read a book i’ll go crazy, i wish i could find a solution.
Even if I dont find any answers here it’s easing my mood a little just talking here somewhat. I feel like theres just nowhere to fr!kkin go to. like theres no point to anything, maybe im just homesick or maybe ive been here too long, i didnt expect this when i came here , but nobody could really sorry if im being vague.
I suppose everything will be fine , its all good
peace
why are you low?
hmm
Im not the best person to be giving advice but from your post ill just say a few things.
Drinking when you feel down will ALWAYS make you feel worse, it may feel like its making things drift away but they aint… Try and avoid drinking by yourself and when your down.
If I were you [which im not and its hard to judge your situation from your posts] I would find a good cd that you like and lie down listening to some music. Try and just close your eyes and let things go for a while. Just be, dont analyze dont lecture yourself just lie and breath and listen to the music.
If you sober up a bit and start to feel more enegtic then take a walk and go outside. Fresh air always makes you feel more alive and more vital.
Another VERY good piece of advice my sifu recently gave me. This is especialy good if you have lost confidence.
Try and spend a LOT of time near water, it has a soothing affect on the soul. If you cant find a large body of water to swim in or simply be around then take a bath or a shower and feel how it reacts to your body.
This is odd advice i know… Im trying to not be to specific these are just ways i find to feel better when im down. Which is also a lot lately so your not alone…
I hope all is well.
things are USUALLY not as bad as they seem
i also like walking if i’m feeling down
you mentioned feeling homesick.
you’re in Jamaica?where did you move from?
I get down really low sometimes. Its just in me so I have tried a lot of things to deal with this.
I have to agree, walking really helps me to feel better. You think things through and you get your heart rate up at the same time. Excercise is really good to combat ‘being down’.
Dont drink. Its what you wanna do but it just increases the chance of this whole deal happening again.
You need to be confident more than anything. Make yourself recall times this has happened before all the way to when you got over it. Then you will start to realize that this is no different, and that you ‘know’ that it will pass.
Trust me. I go through this a lot.
I am the master of laziness, if you think stuff in your life suck, well thats becouse you dont know me. Not only its bad, but its also my fault every time, so cheer up d00d 
BTW, looking for answers never really ends in anyones life, you just have to get used to it.
Hang in there
I don’t know exactly how you feel, but as you can see many of us have been down that road and may go down it again.
All I can say is you have to attack each day and make the most out of it. If I am down and lethargic one day I like to jump in to the next one feet first and forget myself in some project or chores.
Being a drinker myself I have to admit that drinking does not help. A few drinks to relax aren’t bad, but once you get past 3 or 4 you are headed somewhere you don’t want to go.
I find that meditation or controlled breathing are the best ways to free your mind of it’s weight. Training is also quite liberating.
Best of luck to you and I’m living proof that things have a way of working out, it’s just not always obvious at the time.
Guys I appreciate the feedback thanx
Im feeling slightly better today, I saw some of your posts last night but I was still kind of too glum to reply at the time. Plus there was a little adventure in the house regarding a stray/lost cat, but I’ll get into that later.
First of all Sharky , Im low 'cause of relationship politics, and also because I havent painted anything for the past week, and I feel as if Im wasting my time, but really its just a reciprocal thing that I should try to avoid in the future(i.e. letting one negative situation become the catalyst for numerous others) . So I hope that answers your question somewhat.
Jon and Wu , I tried taking a walk earlier yesterday night to try to clear my head , that normally would have helped exept it was really cold around here and even though I had multiple layers of clothing on I was still feeling the bite.
Which answers your question Fish Im still in Colorado on my haitus/vacation(if its possible for young professionals to have such a thing). I go back home to Jamaica next Thursday, just in time for the holidays. And Im looking forward to training, I have been relying on myself for most of the year as Ive been busy at home trying to organize exhibitions and otherwise paint and sell work and get my name out. When I was training at my school earlier this year I was really giving it alot cause i was considering going to miami to compete with the rest of the team, but as things turned out I opted to not to. Instead I came here for about two weeks then met up with my family to spend some time in canada and dc.
We were scheduled to leave Reagan intl. on Sept. 11 , but as we were heading out to the airport my cousin called in and told us to turn on the television…the rest is world history. So I was stranded in dc. for about a week and that was really a depressing time for the world , I as well as millions of people worldwide took it as a personal attack on our humanity. Still I managed to actually do some work, and we got a flight out of baltimore.
I was home for a while maybe a month running around dealing with business, quite a productive month actually, but for sake of personal needs I came back here , I figured the change of environment would probably do me good, and it did , no complaints, theres just some politics about the situation I’m in that I’d rather leave unsaid. Most of you who have ever been in a long distance relationship will understand perhaps.
Xebs do you believe that because most of us here have never seen each others faces we dont know each other. I think with internet being what it is we(the world) might have to restructure our definitions of what it means to “know somebody” , granted there are still going to be question marks like Stacy(no offence), but thats just the way it is.
Xiong youre quite right, something happened to me , a shift in consciousness if i may, that caused me to abandon a sentient vegetarian diet and become a carnivore again. this thing also has made me want to explore the secular sensations that life has to offer, consequently its very difficult for me to meditate. I have not completely abandoned this path though. But you are right everybody comes to a crossroads at multiple times in thier lives , and this has been mine, who knows where it will take me, it brought me here so far, and I am grateful.
Anyway thanks guys, I regard my kwoon home, and in that same light it is easy to regard here as home, we as martial artists should understand the nature of this thing.
Peace.
I do forms really fast and agressive when I get mad! This helps because when I get done I dont have the enrgy to be ****ed.
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I’m a generally L A Z Y person, but when I’m down, I find it helps to go proactive. I try to plan and take stock of things in my life, the good and the bad. I try then to increase the first and get rid of the second
It sounds cheezy but it helps. You realise what good you have in your life, and then plan to get the stuff you’d like. And the drinking NEVER helps. Try and enjoy the vacation, I know sometimes its tough to be away from home, but try and get yourself interested in the new surroundings. Colorado’s a beautiful place! Go see a Broncos game, or just admire the beautiful scenery.
A good thing to do would be to train. It’s a mile up near Denver, and the extra altitude will make it much harder. Give yourself a bit of a once-only Colorado style training test! Don’t push too hard though, the alt. bites more than you think. There’s a great park that overlooks the Denver skyline (hell anywhere in the state’ll have a good view!), I wish I’d had time to train there. And think yourself lucky, not all of us get to travel. Not all of us get to live in Jamaica! Try Stoke-on-Trent for a day, and see how I feel!!!
Wait a minute. Back up. You’re in Jamaica, land of wood and water and sunshine and beautiful brown-skinned pu$$y–and you’re feeling low?
Man, there just is no pleasing you, is there…?
Seasonal Depression?
Hey man, I know you have other things going on, but it sounds like maybe your suffering from seasonal depression. This is something that we northerners have to deal with regularly. It hasn’t happened to me this year, because the weather has been mild, and I’ve had great happenings in my personal life. Most years, however, now is around the time that it hits me. It’s not really the cold, it’s more the overcast skys and the lack of sunshine. When I get up in the morning it is still dark, I’m inside most of the day, and by the time I leave work it’s already dark again. I have had the privilege to spend significant amounts of time in the Carribean ( not Jamaica), and it was always difficult leaving the sunshine and fresh air behind, even if it was months on end and the heat was oppressive, even if I was in a constant sweat 24 hours a day, leaving the climate and the warm-weather culture behind is TOUGH. Depressing is a good way to describe it.
Now, I know personal relationships can be draining if the’re not going well, I’ve had two long-distance relationships, one was the ultimate disastre (lost a year of my life) and the other turned out to be my wife-I decided to take some of the sunshine with me!
But I think deep down you know how it’s going to work out, it’s important not to live in denial. Anyway, you have friends in Cyberspace, so let us know how you feel.
-FJ
Either path will be good. the plusses and moinuses don’t really matter. You would like to see the roads you wouldn’t get to walk if you staied true. Time’s up. Pity party’s over. you made your choices for hopefully sincere reasons. Tell her the truth as soon as possible. Don’t worry about hurt feelings. Get the truth out to know what to do next. Not so bad.
Hit the ground for upset. hit it with your forearms, gently will do to make things better~.
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As for the long-dist. relationship, I know what you mean, I’ve just gotten out of one
At the end of the day, it’s your life so do what’s best. There’s no point it carrying on if you’re unhappy. Instead, end it, get some closure then sit back and take stock. Maybe when you get back you should try and get another week off work if you can, if not then treat yourself to a weekend of laziness.
On this break, just kick back, admire the sun, sea and beautiful women (after all you live in a f*cking paradise!!!) and I bet on my pale skinned envious British a$$ that things’ll fall into place.
As for the cyber-thing, it’s a weird issue. Although I do think that Ralek is a brother to me 
stay off the sauce!
try to stay off the vodka man, it ain’t going to make you any happier and doesn’t help w/ the winter weather. Try going back to training… you’ll find once you get over the initial hump, it gets easier and easier to ramp back up to speed…
Budokan you should do stand up comedy or something …(lol), ok folks nuff respect
Colorado is a beautiful place, theres plenty of stuff to see in the mile high state. I have never seen/felt snow fall in all of my life until I came here, and I must say its quite a beautiful thing. I usually travel in the summer , but this time I decided that hey I’m only young once, might as well go for it eh. So I got to experience Fall and Winter, and those memories will always be with me, all in all Ive had a great time here , it hasnt been unending suffering , I don’t know if my post made it seem that way, Its just that sometimes things become really OVERWHELMING.
With regards to the drinking or the “sauce” lol , I dunno what to say. Jamaica’s a very sociable environment , less restrictions on folks, no legal age to drink or smoke , anyone can buy alcohol or cigarettes at anytime, although its starting to change now since drunk kids coming home from parties racing or whatever have been dying or killing others. Anyway, Ive been doing this drinking thing for a long time now going to the bar back at home isnt an everyday thing for me , but its not unfarmiliar. And at various stages in my life thus far , the frequency of such occurences have depended on which circle of friends I gravitated towards.
Advice taken however , I shudder to think that I’d ever become dependent on a bottle for support , that future does not sound too promising.
I had most of my "wake up calls " so to speak in my late teens, there was a point I even decided to lay off alcohol and smoking , and eating meat … this lasted for about five years actually I was a strict vegetarian. Only coming out of this now, because I feel that that period has passed. Who knows maybe one day it may return.
Alot of stuff has been culminating and thankfully theres been martial arts (one of the healthier vices) to help me stay strong.
With that being said it is up to me as always to find the right path.
I’ll keep you guys posted.
I’m supposed to go see Lord of the Rings on Wednesday, and we will be going home on Thursday (airports I hate them, esp. MIA).
OH and its interesting training here with the altitude being what it is But I think Ive acclimatized. Been training indoors anyway and once on the raquetball court, forms arent a problem , but I need to spar and grapple. and my Gf has been such a gracious host Id really feel bad if I kicked her ass just for sake of my training, even though she did do kf back at home.
Hey!
Hey Starchaser! It looks like you are from Wisconsin so I understand why you would be a little down or pent up! I am from minnesota so I had to say it!
Do you do any form of meditation or internal martial arts? Instead of drinking try focusing on that. I am not saying a drink now and then is a bad thing but in the state it sound slike you are in probably not a good idea. Or call a friend to get some company!
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hey , whats up,
no , not from Wisconsin sorry. maybe the WI means Wisconsin here i dunno, its actually West Indies.
Ive got a friend from my kungfu school in Minessota though, hes currently going to school over there.
but to answer you question yeah I do internal martial arts as well, If I dedicated myself to it totally then I would put down the vices, I dont know whats holding me back but myself.
the internal I do is Yang Style taijichuan , a bit of qigong
Im also very young in my yoga training , but I prefer meditation to asanas.