that grey matter behind your eyes duhhh… 
[QUOTE=Dragonzbane76;991891]that grey matter behind your eyes duhhh… :)[/QUOTE]
I thought that was jello!!:eek:
Going to any Chinese New Years Banquets
If you’re going to a banquet, mind your manners. A faux pas can have dramatic implications. Here’s a primer of how to act if you go to a Chinese New Years Guess who’s coming to dinner? Your master! The do’s and don’ts of Chinese Banquet Etiquette by David Wei.
[QUOTE=GeneChing;993998]If you’re going to a banquet, mind your manners. A faux pas can have dramatic implications. Here’s a primer of how to act if you go to a Chinese New Years Guess who’s coming to dinner? Your master! The do’s and don’ts of Chinese Banquet Etiquette by David Wei.[/QUOTE]
Wow! Thanks for that.
[QUOTE=GeneChing;993998]If you’re going to a banquet, mind your manners. A faux pas can have dramatic implications. Here’s a primer of how to act if you go to a Chinese New Years Guess who’s coming to dinner? Your master! The do’s and don’ts of Chinese Banquet Etiquette by David Wei.[/QUOTE]
wow! detailed instructions on how to be a brown nose!
that’s awesome!
[QUOTE=GeneChing;993998]If you’re going to a banquet, mind your manners. A faux pas can have dramatic implications. Here’s a primer of how to act if you go to a Chinese New Years Guess who’s coming to dinner? Your master! The do’s and don’ts of Chinese Banquet Etiquette by David Wei.[/QUOTE]
the addendum should be that your sifu can buck the etiquette any darn time he likes, and that if you don’t realize he’s doing that and make him look bad, it’s YOUR fault!!!
also, even if you do everything perfectly, you are still inadequate…
i just be myself where ever i go… if people get offended, it’s really not my problem - a tiger can act however it wants, especially in it’s own year. 
good etiquette is good wude
Brown nosing is good guanxi. It’s a delicate, but distinct difference.
The rules of etiquette are very Confucian, and therefore, very Chinese. To really penetrate any other culture in a respectful manner, you need to decode their etiquette. There are many subtleties. For example, I love this photo:
That’s Wu Bin (Jet Li’s coach and one of the highest regarded masters in PRC) toasting Lily Lau. In a strict patriarchal hierarchy, Coach Wu is senior. And yet, he lowers his glass beneath Lau’s as a sign of respect. You can see in her expression how she accepts the honor joyfully. It’s a very sweet moment for Wulin.
I don’t know how many times I’ve raced masters and friends to get my cup lower than theirs. It’s a bit of a trick since you don’t want to spill anything. That’s a faux pas in any culture. My kung fu siblings and I make a sort of game out of it. It’s like ‘who can be faster to show respect?’ It’s always done with joy and respect, not brown nosing subservience or failed attempts at perfection.
i am a fan of the what you see is what you get presence - ya’ll folks can find wude by building a facade, but i say, why waste the time and just enjoy the party.
[QUOTE=GeneChing;994333]Brown nosing is good guanxi. It’s a delicate, but distinct difference.
The rules of etiquette are very Confucian, and therefore, very Chinese. To really penetrate any other culture in a respectful manner, you need to decode their etiquette. There are many subtleties. For example, I love this photo:
That’s Wu Bin (Jet Li’s coach and one of the highest regarded masters in PRC) toasting Lily Lau. In a strict patriarchal hierarchy, Coach Wu is senior. And yet, he lowers his glass beneath Lau’s as a sign of respect. You can see in her expression how she accepts the honor joyfully. It’s a very sweet moment for Wulin.
I don’t know how many times I’ve raced masters and friends to get my cup lower than theirs. It’s a bit of a trick since you don’t want to spill anything. That’s a faux pas in any culture. My kung fu siblings and I make a sort of game out of it. It’s like ‘who can be faster to show respect?’ It’s always done with joy and respect, not brown nosing subservience or failed attempts at perfection.[/QUOTE]
lol.
Indeed. Extension of extra courtesy to your parents, your elders and your teachers is exemplary of good manners and disposition in a person.
Also among your friends makes for a better world for everyone.
The etiquette can be part of the party
uki, I suspect you just haven’t been to many good wulin parties. 
[QUOTE=GeneChing;994333]Brown nosing is good guanxi. It’s a delicate, but distinct difference.
The rules of etiquette are very Confucian, and therefore, very Chinese. To really penetrate any other culture in a respectful manner, you need to decode their etiquette. There are many subtleties. For example, I love this photo:
That’s Wu Bin (Jet Li’s coach and one of the highest regarded masters in PRC) toasting Lily Lau. In a strict patriarchal hierarchy, Coach Wu is senior. And yet, he lowers his glass beneath Lau’s as a sign of respect. You can see in her expression how she accepts the honor joyfully. It’s a very sweet moment for Wulin.
I don’t know how many times I’ve raced masters and friends to get my cup lower than theirs. It’s a bit of a trick since you don’t want to spill anything. That’s a faux pas in any culture. My kung fu siblings and I make a sort of game out of it. It’s like ‘who can be faster to show respect?’ It’s always done with joy and respect, not brown nosing subservience or failed attempts at perfection.[/QUOTE]
Thank you for the education Gene, I enjoy learning about other cultures.
I do have a question however:
It appears to me that one is demonstrating humility, as well as honor, by placing their glass lower than the other person, however if it becomes a competition doesn’t that turn a humble gesture into egotism by trying to be more humble and honoring than the other person?
[QUOTE=GeneChing;994355]uki, I suspect you just haven’t been to many good wulin parties.[/QUOTE]i suspect that if they’re anything like that picture there, that it be akin to an elephant in a fine china shoppe.
Uki “racing” to be more humble?
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Uki “racing” to be more humble?
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you all right dude??
[QUOTE=Dragonzbane76;994451]you all right dude??[/QUOTE]what’s funny is at first glance, i thought that was your post of laughter.
Excellent point, Scott R. Brown
It appears to me that one is demonstrating humility, as well as honor, by placing their glass lower than the other person, however if it becomes a competition doesn’t that turn a humble gesture into egotism by trying to be more humble and honoring than the other person?
There is that for sure. And that’s why etiquette can be really delicate, especially across cultures. When you meet a true master of etiquette, whether it be Chinese or Western, you know. It’s akin to the master socialite.
[QUOTE=GeneChing;994531]It’s akin to the master socialite.[/QUOTE]bodhidharma for instance… i bet he was a tiger.
[QUOTE=uki;994534]bodhidharma for instance… i bet he was a tiger. :p[/QUOTE]
Tigers are mean
Tigers are fierce
Tigers have teeth
And claws that pierce.
Tigers are great
They can’t be beat
If I was a tiger
That would be neat!
Tigers are nimble
And light on their toes
My REspect for tigers
Continually grows.
Tigers are perfect
The e-pit-o-me
Of good looks and grace
And quiet dignity!
Tigers are great
They’re the toast of town
Life’s always better
When a tiger’s around!
To us Dragons, Tigers just taste funny.
lol